May 12, 2019
All In with Pauline Hawkins
Being a mother is definitely a role that demands that we go “all in”. I’m thankful for all the mothers in my life who raised me, nurtured me, befriended me, helped me with my children, and offered me their hands to hold, their arms to hug, and their shoulders to cry on.
Mothers are one of the most important people in our lives and it’s great to take a day to honor that role. I know many mothers who have worked hard to provide the best life for their children, as well as people that have taken on that role without giving birth to the people they have taken under their wing. I know mothers and fathers who have had to play both roles for their children and friends who have become the “mother” in their group of friends.
I also know that Mother’s Day, like many holidays and events can be difficult for people. The best advice I can give is the advice I heard from Brene Brown. I’ve said it often on my show, but it doesn’t hurt to say it again: The most loving thing we can do for others is to create healthy boundaries for ourselves. What does that mean? It means that I know what is my issue to deal with and what is someone else’s. I don’t push my issues on someone else or blame them for my situation, and I don’t take on anyone else’s issue or blame myself for what they are angry or struggling with. It’s not as easy as it sounds, but it does get easier with practice. As far as my children are concerned, I’ve made mistakes, but I have learned from them, apologized and then did the next right thing. My children know I am always in their corner, but what they also know is that I trust them to make the best decisions for their lives. I don’t assert my will but will talk things out with them, if they want my input, so that they can make a healthy decision for their lives. It has empowered them and taught them to trust themselves and shown them what healthy boundaries look like. It’s how we show love in our family.
I wish the same for all of you.
So, for this show, I just wanted to play a few songs for those important mother’s in my life, starting with my mother Ana Galovski and my grandmother Velika Kordovich. I miss them terribly and would not be the woman I am today without them. This song is also a tribute to all the amazing women I’ve had in my life who have stood by during some difficult times.
1st song: “Because you loved me” by Celine Dion
Next, I have a few songs I want to play for my children. They are my reason for everything I do. First, I have two amazing adult daughters Nicole Galovski and Carol Linn Powell who are crushing it and have earned rock star status in my book.
2nd song: “Run The World (Girls)” by Beyoncé
Finally, for my son Ian I couldn’t imagine a more appropriate song than “Better” by Toby Lightman. Here are the lyrics:
He’ll be enough to make you cry
He’ll be enough to open your eyes
To all the little things that make this world better
He’ll give you love you never knew
He’ll give his heart only to you
And he’ll make your life oh better
So when he comes to you in the middle of the night
‘Cause he’s scared to be alone in the dark
You’ll tell him everything’s gonna be alright
‘Cause I will be your light
I will be your night
I will be that star in the sky who watches over you
You’ll tell him everything you know
You’ll tell him “oh the places you’ll go”
So you can be a good man and
Make this world better.
You’ll give him all the love you have
Even when he makes you so mad
Keep in mind, that he made your life better.
So when he comes to you and he’s so confused
Because he wants to give his heart to another
You’ll tell him everything’s gonna be just fine
‘Cause I will be your light
And when the years are going by too fast
And he’s growing up to be big and strong
Know his love for you will last
Even when he doesn’t say it to your face
Even when you have to put him in his place
Know that he’s a love that nothing in this
World can ever replace
In all things, remember: Be courageous. Stay strong. Go all in.